When I left headship for the first time, I worked in schools all around the country using a psychometric tool, called Packtypes, to help people understand one another and hence improve the way they communicated to each other. I now have that system engrained in my head and use it every day to help filter the way people behave.
What is it you use?
Sometimes people ‘fly off the handle’ because of the way someone else behaved or what they said. Agreed, some things are hurtful, but what is your filter? What process do you go through before you make a judgement and respond?
I tried to instill this in my teenage daughter 5 years ago when I gave her a frame for Christmas with a quote in it, that said:
‘Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the
right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the
right purpose, and in the right way - that is not easy.
We are always trying to provide children in school with a ‘filter’ to help them deal with those children that are different to them or behave in a way that they don’t understand. Our hope is that they become more emotionally intelligent so that they can deal with conflict and situations outside school.
With this in mind, I have asked Miss Taylor to look carefully at the Personal Development and Well Being of all our pupils in more detail next term. How are we really preparing them for life beyond CTK? She is perfect for this as I consider her a very emotionally intelligent person who deals with things in a calm and appropriate manner.
As I write this, it is the last day of term and we are all exhausted, children and adults! However, I am still excited about next term. Our school is an exciting place at the moment and we have such great plans. It is time to reboot the body and mind and surge on again.
And, as someone who relaxes with a small glass of wine, listening to music, around my family this Christmas, I will always dwell on the quote:
‘I’m dreaming of a white Christmas, but if it runs out I’ll drink the red!’
Merry Christmas everyone.